tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27945613.post8374566039881914061..comments2023-06-20T02:06:52.150-06:00Comments on Alethiography: Living Among the HumansTamhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18079829842465164437noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27945613.post-43166966480769089612009-09-14T14:03:40.786-06:002009-09-14T14:03:40.786-06:00I can discuss this more from the Adam side of the ...I can discuss this more from the Adam side of the situation, since I am also really a sore loser when it comes to certain kinds of games. The key was discovering what those certain kinds of games are and just not playing them, or playing a version of them that doesn't screw me up. For instance, I am happier playing a game that has many stages / rounds / hands with opportunities for winning than a game where you put hours into it and end up losing, and have found I am happier when I don't keep score in games like gin but instead just play a lot of rounds, some of which I win, some I lose. <br /><br />But even I do not get angry that I think other people have some kind of duty to consider their effects on me when they make a strategic move of their own. (For the world's most trivial example, if my opponent plays a card that blocks my play, I may feel angry because I'm thwarted, but not righteously angry that they would block me. If we are not all trying to win, many games have no point.)<br /><br />Getting faux-whiny and angry about those kind of moves is utterly de rigueur in playing games with my family, so getting actually upset really screws with the rhythms of "I can't believe you would do this to your oldest and most beloved child!" etc.<br /><br />Perhaps you guys need to get a version of the Ungame. :)<br /><br />As for how to live with humans, part of it is probably choosing those humans very carefully. You also may not be nearly enough of a hard-ass with this guy. It may not be too late to start, I don't know.Sallyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15376389949707679077noreply@blogger.com